”If you’re not alive, San Francisco will bring you to life.” (William Saroyan)
Beautiful San Francisco marks the last leg of my California trip. I’m sad to see it end but excited for new chapters and new adventures. I want to get a little personal with you and touch on something that hits close to home. Today is Cheer up the Lonely day and I’d like to share some of my story with you.
Researchers from Brigham Young University has found that loneliness “represents a greater health risk than obesity and is as destructive to your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.” (Dale Archer M.D. Psychology Today, 2015)
The last few years have been particularly difficult. My long term relationship had ended, a move to different location, and both my children moved out to attend college. My life had changed drastically and it had afffected both my financial and emotional well being. I lost myself, lost my identity, my likes, my passions, my dreams and my goals. I had to get to know myself again. I lived in fear and everything around me was constantly changing. All I wanted was for everything to stay the same but that’s not how life works. Those were some dark, tough times and I learned to do things myself.
One day, i packed up my home and loaded up my car and decided that it was time to live. I drove to California and made every single stop I had wanted to and saw everything I had always wanted to see. I had no one else other than myself to think about or make happy. I was on my own schedule. My heart was full.
I spent nearly a month traveling from Newport , Los Angeles and San Francisco. I was enchanted by all the beauty and sights around me. This filled my lonely void. There is a marked level of reflection that one goes through while traveling solo. As I drove along the Golden Gate Bridge for the first time, I was screaming at the top of my lungs, “I did it! I made it! I’m here!!! Yes!!!!”
I learned that I am strong, fiercely independent and I’m proud of who I am becoming. This has been one of my best years yet and I truly have been living my life to the fullest. I am no longer lonely, I was just alone. There is a difference between being lonely and alone. I’ve learned to love myself and have renewed confidence. There is true beauty and strength in being alone.
With that said, please don’t let life pass you by. Life is incredibly short so make the best of it. Fear kept me lonely. If you’re going through bouts of loneliness, stop waiting for things to happen. Be proactive in your own happiness, call a friend, take a walk, go to a
park, travel, watch the sun rise or sun set, gaze at the stars. Beauty and joy can be found. You can be alone and be filled with self discovery without being lonely. You can’t get back wasted yesterdays. If you know someone who is lonely, reach out!
In honor of Cheer up the Lonely Day, I am wearing my favorite dress. It’s a good mix between casual and dressy. I love floral prints and a flowy accordion pleat couldn’t be any better. My favorite dress is to remind myself and you that life is too beautiful and to step out of your own comfort zone and make your own adventure!
”In a world full of pants, be a dress…” (Jules L.)