Harsh Criticism

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Recently, I went on a lunch date with an old friend of mine. We hadn’t seen each other in a while, so of course, there was quite a bit of catching up to do. I showed her my social media and I wasn’t expecting the response I received. She had put down most of my photos and didn’t like at least 75% of the dresses I wore. She mocked me for wearing longer styles  and said I looked like a missionary or a Mormon. (No offense at all to those who are, I’m only repeating what was said to show context of this conversation that took place.)  Ironically, some of my dresses are, in fact, from Mormon clothing sites. She asked me why I didn’t show more skin and why I chose to be so covered up.

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At first, I was taken a back, a little offended even. I knew it wasn’t coming from a bad place, she’s a brutally honest friend that speaks her mind and doesn’t hold back. We really do have different tastes.  However, it did sting a little. Was she right? Was she seeing something everyone else did and I was blind to it? After a while of pondering on it, I realized that while putting myself out there, I need to take the criticism whether it be good or bad. If there was a time to develop thick skin, this was it. I’m not always going to get positive reactions and it’s through the negatives that I can learn and do better. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, some prefer coffee. Not everyone is going to love what you do or wear. It’s easy to hear the glowing compliments, but hard to listen to the negatives. What can I learn from this? How can I improve? Sometimes criticism just serves to build greater strength. If I think I’m on the right track and still feel passionate about the direction I’m headed, I’ll drown out that noise and keep going. Be your own cheerleader and your own biggest fan.

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Take the criticism, learn, grow and use it to become your best possible self. Sure, you’re not going to please everyone. I had to remind myself that this is what I like, and doing what I love is the most important thing. If you feel passionate about something, no one is going to be able put those flames out. Listening to the negatives that others have to say will only drag you down. It did drag me down, but only momentarily. I got back up and adjusted my crown, as all queens should do.

 

  • What I Wore:
  • Black Heart Tee by Target
  • Pink Ruffled Skirt by JW Style
  • White Eyelet Dress by Momento
  • Pink Polka Dot Dress by Tj Maxx

In a world full of pants, be a dress~ Jules

7 thoughts on “Harsh Criticism

  1. I love this post and honestly haters are always going to hate. Constructive criticism is one thing but wanting someone to change or pursue something else completely is completed different. Do what makes you happy! Life is too short. Anyways, long dresses are in and trending and I happen to love the style that’s coming back. You are amazing. Keep doing what you are doing 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much for your support. I appreciate your perspective and take on this. I completely agree with you, life is too short to be stuck on someone else’s opinion. You are the type of queen that helps fixes another queens crown. 🥰👑

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  2. Hey, I love how honest you are in this post. Criticism is hard to take especially from friends. I was reluctant to start my blog for fear of what other people would think. Then I realised that people are always going to make judgments and assumptions about me no matter what. I’m doing what makes me happy. We should support each other because life is hard enough. 😘😘😘

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    1. Thank you so much, I really appreciate your words. I am so glad you started your blog! I didn’t start mine either for years because of fear. Fear can hold us back from so much. Now I’m having so much fun with it and falling in love with the process. I hope you are too! One of the reasons why I love this community so much is because of the support. Thank you kindly for yours!

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  3. Great post!! You look awesome! I had lunch with an old friend awhile ago and she criticized my blog to no end!! Some people can’t handle it when others are true to theirselves and are happy with who they are and their choices! Loved this post!!!!

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    1. Thank you so much, I greatly appreciate it! I’m so sorry that happened to you as well. We must have the same friend! 😂 I do like your take on this, because although I accepted her actions, I just didn’t understand it. So glad we are following our passions and doing what makes us happy. That’s what truly matters!

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