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Stop Apologizing, Start Posting

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Life’s moments are so fleeting and how we feel about or see ourselves can change on any given day. Some days you can feel unstoppable, on top of the world, and then there are those days you feel insecure. “I don’t want to be that girl who posts selfies all the time,” is something I hear frequently. Who cares if you are? The only one who really notices or is paying that close attention, is you. Kim Kardashian even has a book about it! Kim is making a fortune off of her book featuring her own selfies and she’s definately not apologizing for it.

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Stop apologizing, start posting. You will look back when you’re 80 and think wow I was hot, I’m so glad I have these photos to look back on. If you’re starting off your posts by saying “I’m sorry, but I feel cute today” or “so sorry for the repost but I really loved this dress” then stop it!  If you’re feeling yourself, then good, you should be. You’re gorgeous so don’t be afraid to shine! You have no reason to apologize to anyone, just be that confident you. Post it. Take that photo. Don’t be your own personal hater. There’s already enough of that out there in the world.

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Are you feeling fly in that dress/ outfit? Is your makeup is on point?  Then yes, take that pic, take that selfie. No need to apologize. “Sorry guys for another selfie”…stop saying sorry for being you. Why are you apologizing?  If someone tells you otherwise, drown out that noise. You don’t need that kind of negativity, you do you, boo! If you see your girl posting on social media, be supportive! Queens should be supporting fellow queens and like her photo! Tell her she looks fabulous because kindness is free. Last I heard, no one is living your life but you. Bring out your inner goddess, your high level diva moment and snap away!

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I used to watch shows of celebrity homes and many would typically have a life size portrait of themselves hanging on their walls. I remember thinking they were incredibly vain. I don’t have this mindset anymore. In fact, I can see myself doing the same thing! I hope I do have full shots of me adorning my walls someday. If I felt incredible, I want to memorialize and remember it. Nothing vain about it. Live your most extra fabulous best life! This is a fun way to document your journey and these moments because it doesn’t last forever. Please stop apologizing and just post it! 

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Thanks so much for stopping by!

  • What I Wore:
  • Pink Tulle Dress from Migliore
  • Lashes and Lips Tee from Amazon
  • Black Midi Skirt by Monologue
  • Pink Stan Smith Sneakers by Adidas
  • Yellow Floral Dress by Fabric Gray
  • Black Lace Dress by Blooming Jelly (Amazon)

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules

 

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Joys of Traveling Solo

I started my journey in solo traveling in 2017. It was my first trip to California and something I had never ventured into before. I was nervous, a little scared and also really excited. After having done one under my belt, I have since done a couple of others and will continue to do so.

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When I tell people that I will be traveling alone, I usually get met with the same expressions and same questions. I get a look of disbelief and awe. I get asked “Aren’t you scared? Won’t you be lonely? Isn’t that dangerous?” Or “I could never take a trip so far away from home all by myself.” Yes, sometimes I can get a little scared and it can be dangerous. Let’s face the reality, being a female solo traveler can have its disadvantages. You really have to watch your back and be aware of your surroundings. There are people in this world that do not have your best intentions at heart and being alone can be an easy target. I don’t venture out at night and I don’t put myself in situations that make me feel uncomfortable. Second, do I ever get lonely? Rarely. I am more focused on my destination and taking in all the sights around me. Sometimes I think about my loved ones who would appreciate the location but I do try and live in the moment.

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I believe that every woman should take at least one solo trip in her life. This is a wonderful chance at reflection and really getting to know yourself. There is such beauty in being alone in your own thoughts and presence. Some of my trips have brought out the most clarity and understanding to the matters of my own heart. I encourage you to at least try it, just have a well thought out plan and agenda before going all in.

Some advantages to solo traveling, is being on your own schedule. I am such a type A personality that I need to have a set schedule and itinerary. Deviating from my plan brings me anxiety. Since I am on my own, I don’t have to worry about being on someone else’s time or  stress out because they are running late, which puts me behind on my day. I choose the stops I want to make and the sights I want to see. If I want to take an hour taking photos somewhere, I certainly will! If I want to take in an exhibit or some other cheesy touristy pit stop, there is no one around that will turn that idea down. If there is food or drinks I am craving, I don’t have to ask if anyone wants the same, I’ll just indulge.

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Solo traveling is quite liberating, fun and a soul searching experience. It’s highly pampering and all about you!  Have you traveled alone before? How was your experience and where did you go?

Thanks so much for stopping by!

  • What I Wore:
  • Yellow Pleated Dress by Zara
  • Double G Belt by Gucci
  • White Floral Dress by The Show Box
  • Pink Polo Dress by Lacoste
  • Stan Smith Sneakers by Adidas

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules

My (Half) Birthday

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Today is my half Birthday and I think that is cause for a celebration! If you ask me how old I am today, I am probably going to lie. Not because I’m embarrassed of my age, but because, after a certain age, a woman likes to keep those things to herself. Half birthdays aren’t recognized anymore after the age of twelve or so. Up until that age, we were more than happy to tell everyone and we made sure we proudly include the half after the year. No one really has a party or anything like that but why can’t you you enjoy your special half year mark? I think we should celebrate it and I’ll do it wholeheartedly.

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There are limited things in life that we choose to celebrate. I choose to acknowledge the big and the small, it really does make life worthwhile. Life is too short, to only recognize monumental moments and achievements. I’m a big believer in loving yourself and doing the things that bring you happiness. Today, I’m going to treat myself to my favorite caramel iced coffee and eat all the macarons that my heart desires. It’s my day, my half birthday, my half birthday week and my half birthday month! Welcome to my party! I’m grateful and blessed to be alive to be able to enjoy this experience. This is my first year celebrating this special day and I’ve been anticipating this for 6 months. I plan to do make this day special every year and keep this tradition going. I’m glad I did it and I wish you would celebrate yours too!

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  • What I Wore:
  • Red Dress by Ralph Lauren
  • Black Ribbed Dress by Soul Way
  • Pink Cardigan/ Duster by Soul Way
  • Black/ White Polka Dot Dress by Old Navy

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~Jules

 

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No Comparison

“I’m the only one of me…. baby, that’s the fun of me. You’re the only one of you… baby that’s the fun of you” Taylor Swift, Me.

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It’s hard not to compare ourselves to others, whether it be in real life or on social media. Scrolling through your feed, picture perfect lives and images flood our screens. Filter or no filter, the perfect hair, body, makeup, clothes or destinations of others can make our lives look bleak in comparison.

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I know that I’m guilty of playing the comparison game and I can’t possibly be the only one. Although I am a happy and confident girl, I can see one (or many) photos online that can make me feel less than adequate. I wonder if blogging or having a presence on social media can have that impact a little more. For example, I can feel great about a photo I’ve posted or an outfit I’m wearing, only to see a much better pic of someone else. Their page is filled with amazing photography or their outfits are stunning, with a wardrobe I can only dream of having. I start questioning if my photos are up to par, and I begin over analyzing every flaw I have.

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The thing is, we’re only human and we can’t help but to compare. It’s going to happen every once in a while, but it shouldn’t be something you should obsess over. Someone out there is going to have a better photos, higher skill set, better body, whatever it is, someone is going to do it better than you or me. We each have our own individual strengths and weaknesses. By not focusing on the weaknesses, building and enhancing our strengths is what makes us stand out as individuals. However, we all bring something worthwhile to the table and we are all so different and unique. That in itself is an amazing thing, how special we each are. We live in a big world, how boring it would be if we were all the same?

There is only one of me, there really is only one of you. When we realize that and embrace it, there is absolutely no comparison.

  • What I Wore:
  • Pink Ribbed Dress – Korean Fashion
  • Blue/White Gingham Dress by Old Navy
  • Pink Floral Dress – Korean Fashion

In a world full of pants, be a dress~ Jules

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The Road To Happiness

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“The most important thing is to enjoy your life- to be happy, it’s all that matters.” Audrey Hepburn

Most people want to be happy and many just don’t know how to achieve it. I’ve spent many years being unhappy and the longer I was, it just never seemed possible to get out of the head space I was stuck in. Years ago, I wanted to quit something so badly. I was young, afraid and miserable. Someone told me to fake being happy and eventually I would actually really feel happy. This stayed with me for many years, but I didn’t follow through with the advice. Although I didn’t quit, I was still quite miserable.

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The faking bit can apply to many things, happiness, confidence… we all know the ‘fake it till you make it’ phrase. Even though I didn’t take the advice then, I’ve completely embraced it now. I mean, nothing else worked, why not give this a try?

Every day, we make choices. We choose to start our day with a cup of coffee, we choose to excercise and we choose our decisions that are going affect us. So why not choose to be happy?

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There are things in life that’s going to bring us down, even daily sometimes. Divorce, sickness, death and finances, sometimes these things are completely out of our control. I know that things happen for a reason and we may come to realize it later. However, there are things that’s happened in my life that makes me wonder if they had to happen at all? What was the learning experience or possible benefit from something so painful or negative? I may never understand but I do know that I’m alive today and that alone is something to be excited about. It’s not guaranteed but I’ve been blessed with another day.

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Instead of living day after day feeling miserable, it only serves as wasted time and energy. The biggest regret people have is what they should have done. Even I have those regrets as I reflect back on my own wasted time and energy, spent on the wrong people, places and things.

As much negative energy that we put in to being sad and miserable, the same could be said for putting in positive energy. I’ve learned, it doesn’t happen overnight and it’s most definately a choice, even if you have to start by faking it. It’s a new mindset and you’ve got to be consistent with it.

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Here are some ways to find your inner happy place. Begin by loving yourself first. Treat yourself, spoil yourself, indulge yourself, even if there is no one out there that will, do it for you. You are with you 24/7, and you cannot escape yourself, it’s impossible. Do things you love to do. Go for walks, enjoy the sunset, read your favorite books, paint, write, travel, and pet your dog. There’s plenty for you to do and most don’t cost anything. If you stop doing the things that you love, you start feeling unhappy.

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Motion is emotion. Keep on moving, you’re not going to find what you’re looking for in front of the tv, or sitting on your porch watching the world go by. Make your own happiness, just keep it in motion. Being sedentary is stale and that’s what your life will reflect.

My road to happiness was a long one. Start with loving you first and surrounding yourself with what you love. Fake it, put a smile on your face or laugh, even if you don’t want to. Eventually, it won’t be a fake smile, you’re literally going to feel that happy bursting inside of you. When you’ve reached a happiness point in your life, share it with others. Make yourself happy first, that’s where it begins. It’s not selfish, it’s your life and you only have one chance at it. Make it your best life.

Thanks so much for stopping by and I wish you all the happiness in the world. It’s out there, you just have to choose it.

  • What I Wore:
  • White Top by H&M
  • White Tulle Skirt by Migliore
  • Black/ White Maxi Dress by Joinus
  • Blue Top by H&M
  • Blue Tulle Skirt by Migliore

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~Jules

 

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Create Your Own Fairy Tale

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All the single ladies, all the single ladies… I have been a single lady since 2015. On the heels of my my breakup, of being in a relationship for 10 years, I found myself completely lost. I wanted to replace or fill that void as quickly as I possibly could. I’ve watched people rush into relationships before they were ready or stuck in relationships they weren’t happy in. I didn’t want to make those same mistakes, so I decided to just work on myself instead. Looking back, I’m glad I took the much needed time to heal and find myself.

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 The more time that has passed, the more I love being single. This is no bs, or sugar coating, or just saying it to make myself feel better and to convince you not to. People look sad and pathetically, at you and say oh, you’ll find someone. You won’t feel that way forever, you’ll change your mind for the right one, when the right person/ guy comes around. This is actually insulting to me. I get met with a lot shock, like it’s a bad thing. I’ve been told, you haven’t met the right one, you won’t always feel this way. Wanna bet? I mean, sure there is a chance that I could meet someone amazing and change my mind but you’re going to have to be John Cena because my standards are sky high. However, John Cena, if you’re reading this, hi, you can totally slide into my DMs. Is there is something wrong with me for being completely content with not being in a relationship or a marriage? I don’t think so, and I don’t believe that being in one defines who I am. 

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 One reason why I’m happy I’m single, is that I don’t like to compromise and I no longer have to. I don’t have to indulge my masking or deep conditioning hair rituals. I don’t have to hide shopping bags in my trunk anymore. I don’t have to “run it by” my partner before I make decisions. I no longer have to sacrifice my freedom or independence. No one is holding me back anymore. I buy myself the best presents on holidays (I know exactly the things I love!), I spoil myself rotten….as you should. I go out to eat and watch what I want and I’ve gotten selfish with my time. 

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 Being single, it irks me to hear women say that their partner is their better half or other half.  Or so and so makes me a better person or brings out the best in me. I don’t deserve this person. No honey, you’re a whole person 100% and it’s been within yourself the entire time. If you do better it’s because you chose to do better. Please give yourself the credit, and not to some boy. Sunsets and sunrises are still beautiful. Being in a relationship doesn’t make the places you see or do diminish the beauty. Humans are so geared to think that we need a partner to merely exist or be truly happy in life. Is something only worthwhile or beautiful if you have someone to share it with? Being alone certainly does not mean that I am lonely.

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 My best reason for being single, is that I’m not an extension of someone. I’m not my best me because of my better half. I am my own person and I love myself first. A friend once told me that she “loves me some me.” I didn’t get it then, it took a while to get to that place. Now, I get it and  I love me some me. Create your own fairy tale, there doesn’t have to be a Prince Charming. Love yourself first, it’s ok. It’s an incredible journey. 

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Thanks so much for reading and letting me share my journey with you!

  • What I Wore:
  • Polka Dot Dress by Zappos
  • White Floral Dress by Down East Basics
  • Pink Polka Dot Dress by JC Penny

 

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~Jules

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One Year Later

 

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Hello everyone! I’m celebrating a land mark date for myself… I’ve been blogging for one year! I’m really into celebrating milestones, however big or small. Achieving goals and accomplishments keeps your dreams big and keeps them growing. I am by no means a pro when it comes to social media, in fact, I still feel that I am in the infant stages. I’m a baby blogger. Here are some things I’ve learned along the way.

1. Consistency is key. When I first started out, I didn’t have a set schedule and often times posted at random. I still get stuck in this at times, I get busy, life gets in the way, etc, we are  all guilty of this. There needs to be a sense of regularity and not haphazard times of whenever is convenient.

2. Quality not quantity. I’ll be honest, I published quite a bit of things that I cringe at now.  I had this urge to get things out there as soon and as much as possible, that the quality wasn’t the best. Regardless, I’ve decided to keep those posts up because they are still ME. Throughout this blogging journey, they became a reminder to myself of how far I’ve come and to learn from mistakes I’ve made.

3. It’s harder than it looks. Initially, I thought it was going to be easy. I mean, my topic is about dresses and although it may be superficial “fluff”, it really does require some time and effort. There’s a whole system in place and not as simple as snapping pics. Photos, location, content, thoughts and ideas all come together to form just one post.

4. Engagement is key. You can have the most aesthetically pleasing post, but without anyone to read or comment can leave you feeling disheartened. Engaging with other like minded people who share your vision or have things in common with are the ways to grow. Building yourself can only happen when you network with others. I struggle with this to this day. In my “real” day to day life, I am quite shy. It’s been difficult sometimes to get out of my own head or come out of my shell, even if it is behind a computer screen.

5. Have fun with it! I’ve come to realize that the more I’ve been doing it, the more enjoyment and fun I’ve had. For example, looking for great photo opportunities and locations ended up becoming a way to travel and experience new things. I probably never would have been to certain places or tried new things if it weren’t for that. It really got me out of my comfort zone.

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Thank you so much for following along with me this past year on my blogging journey. I am beyond grateful. This has been such a rewarding and fulfilling experience.

  • What I Wore
  • Gingham Checkered Dress by Old Navy

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules

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Colors and Camo

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Hello everyone, I hope you’re doing well. It’s my favorite part of the week… the weekend! Today, I’m going to do a combined post of 2 outfits I wore this week. I’m not one to shy away from colors and prints; the brighter and bolder, the better!

I have a true love affair for animal prints, leopard, cheetah, zebra, snakeskin and camouflage is notably on this list as well. Camo prints can be subtle but really a standout piece on its own.  I’m thrilled that it’s come out of the woodwork and join the ranks as a coveted fashion statement. For the risk of looking too military or a look right out of the hunting section, I didn’t want to wear camo with the typical black, brown or green pieces. Of course, I had to add my own touch to it and played around with my favorite color… pink. I thought this was a great contrast, yet unexpected shade to pair with camouflage.

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Moving on to color. Colorful prints are a boost of energy, like a Vitamin c shot, in clothing form. Can you really be so unhappy with such vibrant hues that envelope you? Bright colors and bold hues certainly makes me smile and I’m convinced it will make all those around you smile too. You’re basically a walking rainbow and who doesn’t love rainbows? It’s good luck that follows you around all day and just waiting to happen.

Hope you like these two outfit ideas. Consider enriching your days with some color or camo! I can’t promise you true happiness but at the very least, you’ll feel great wearing it.

  • What I Wore
  • Camouflage Skirt by Forever21
  • Pale Pink Denim Jacket by H&M
  • Pink Shirt by American Eagle Outfitters
  • Multi Color Maxi Dress by The Dress Barn 

Thanks so so much for stopping by!

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules

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This Is How I Denim

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Many of you already know, I don’t wear jeans or pants, and while I don’t necessarily feel as though I’m missing out, I do love denim.  Other than jeans, denim is easy to find in jackets and shirts but not quite so available in skirt or dress forms. Let’s be honest, many denim skirts and dresses can tend to lean towards being outdated, matronly or demure. My clothing choices do reflect my personality and what I showcase to the world about myself.

As my shirt says, “I rule my world” and this is how I denim. As per my previous post, “The Blogger Tuck”, I’ve recently embraced tucking in my shirts. I decided to give it a go with this denim skirt and really liked how cool and  casual this outfit turned out.

 

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I hope you enjoy this take on denim, as much as I enjoyed wearing it. Maybe you will take a break from the typical denim jeans and try a fun denim skirt this summer! Thanks so much for stopping by!

**What I Wore                                                         * Distressed Denim Skirt by Wild Fable (Target)                                                                       * Striped Shirt by EV1 (Walmart)

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules

 

 

 

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Military Green Dream

“Fashion wasn’t what you wore someplace anymore; it was the whole reason for going.” -Andy Warhol

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I’ve been to the bunkers at Fort Worden a few times and I enjoy the scenery, rich in history. If I’m being completely honest, I very much had a “I did it for the gram” moment. When I first spotted this dress, I thought to myself, “this dress would be so great for the bunkers at Fort Worden.” So, I made the trek in my “military” green dress to the historical Army bunkers.  Pose, snap, pose, snap… thank you, Andy Warhol, you said it best.

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You really could spend the whole day here at Fort Worden and we spent hours just wandering and exploring. Fun fact, An Officer and a Gentleman movie was filmed here and in the neighboring town of Port Townsend.

”Military” green, olive green, sage green, moss green… whatever you want to call it, it is having it’s moment. And rightly so, it’s great that this muted color has its chance to shine. I’ve really been in to this subtle yet standout hue and plan to incorporate more pieces in this shade.

Hope you enjoyed the look and a small peek at the bunkers that overlooks the beauty of the Puget Sound. Thanks so much for stopping by!

** What I Wore **                                                       * Olive Green Dress by Old Navy *                            * White Crop Top by Lulu’s *

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules