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Taking Photos And Social Anxiety

 

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Taking photos is just a part of social media, blogging, etc, and it plays a big role. The smiles, the poses but what really goes into that photo? When you’re out in public or in a crowded area or you’re with friends and take photos, or even by yourself with a selfie, you snap a few and stop. In a selfie ruled world, a lot of us really don’t like to do it in view of other people. Our Facebook. Instagram, snaps chats, social media’s profiles are filled with selfies and pics. I don’t get why, in reality, we are quick with taking photos in public and try to be as discreet as possible about it. We all do it, we snap a few and slyly look around to see if anyone is watching. If you’re in the clear, you take more and if not, you put your phones away. You don’t take too many, you don’t want to draw attention to yourself. Why the judgement when we all selfie? I really don’t know why there is such a stigma against taking multiple photos but after a short amount of shots, we stop. We all do it. You take a few and keep it moving. If you’re feeling that level of self consciousness with just a few snaps from your phone, being a blogger, when photos are key, it can be even more daunting. It’s not easy putting yourself out there like that and it really does take some guts to do it.

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I wish I could snap a few shots and call it a day but it never happens that way. I can take dozens, sometimes even a couple hundred and only a few shots are even usable. Even worse, I can spend hours shooting and everything will work against me, the wind, the lighting, weather, location, my outfit, poses, crowds and I can literally walk away without any usable content. It’s frustrating to say the least, to spend hours and no pay off. I guess I can say it’s a learning experience and use it to my advantage the next time around.

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A lot of us already know that the ideal time to take photos is when there is no one around and not crowded. So we head off at the best time before this particular spot becomes congested. If something opens up at 9, I will probably get there around 8 or even earlier. Thank you google for showing the busiest times at locations. But then you have the prime golden hour, which is the most magical lighting, but everyone is around. When I am in a highly populated area, I can feel silly and quite self conscious as people are passing by.

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Taking photos around others isn’t as easy at looks. What you don’t see beyond the smile and pose, is all the people walking around. Some stare, some gawk, point, honk their horn, laugh, roll their eyes, and some ask what you’re doing. These things really do happen. It’s not always bad, I’ve met some supportive people along the way. It can be difficult to be in your element and just do your thing. We all want to take our friendship or selfie shots as soon as we can and get it over with, but I have to keep taking photo after photo to get that best shot. Even if it means there’s a crowd milling around and at that point, I feel ridiculously vain taking photos, setting up my tripod for just myself. What I’ve learned is to ignore it or smile at the passerbys. Most of the time, they smile back, so this definitely works. Or I pretend I am fiddling around with my camera, making adjustments until they leave and this works too.

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What I have learned, that works the best, is just to face it head on. I try not over think it, and tell myself that I don’t know these people and they don’t know me. I’ll probably never see them again and keep on posing and smiling untill I have the photos I need. It can be unnerving having people watch you. You have to dig deep and pretend you don’t see them and not let it affect you. Sometimes I have to blast Eminem or my girl Cardi B through my headphones just to get into that mode and mindset. Stop getting in my own head if I want to get it done. Taking photos is public places can be embarrassing and sometimes I just want to pack up my stuff and leave. But I make myself stay, I push through it and remind myself that it’s not their opinion of me that makes a difference in who I am.

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I tell myself, you got this, who cares what they think, stay confident, you’re strong, you’re a boss babe, just go take those photos. Sometimes I can be quite harsh and not so nice to myself and say “just stfu, quit being a baby, who cares about those people and just go do it. I literally have to tell my brain to shut up , turn my thoughts off and make myself. Its important that I set my purpose and know I have reason for doing this. I have a goal and it’s something I have to remind myself.

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Does anyone else have anxiety when taking photos in public places? How did you overcome it?

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Thanks so much for stopping by!

  • What I Wore:
  • Blue Floral Dress by Colza (Japanese Fashion)
  • Pink Korean Traditional Dress (Hanbok)- no brand
  • Sequined Heart Pullover by Blooming Jelly
  • Scalloped Lace Pink Dress by Speechless
  • Blazer by IFNE (Korean Fashion)

In a world full of pants, be a dress~ Jules

 

 

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Create Your Own Fairy Tale

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All the single ladies, all the single ladies… I have been a single lady since 2015. On the heels of my my breakup, of being in a relationship for 10 years, I found myself completely lost. I wanted to replace or fill that void as quickly as I possibly could. I’ve watched people rush into relationships before they were ready or stuck in relationships they weren’t happy in. I didn’t want to make those same mistakes, so I decided to just work on myself instead. Looking back, I’m glad I took the much needed time to heal and find myself.

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 The more time that has passed, the more I love being single. This is no bs, or sugar coating, or just saying it to make myself feel better and to convince you not to. People look sad and pathetically, at you and say oh, you’ll find someone. You won’t feel that way forever, you’ll change your mind for the right one, when the right person/ guy comes around. This is actually insulting to me. I get met with a lot shock, like it’s a bad thing. I’ve been told, you haven’t met the right one, you won’t always feel this way. Wanna bet? I mean, sure there is a chance that I could meet someone amazing and change my mind but you’re going to have to be John Cena because my standards are sky high. However, John Cena, if you’re reading this, hi, you can totally slide into my DMs. Is there is something wrong with me for being completely content with not being in a relationship or a marriage? I don’t think so, and I don’t believe that being in one defines who I am. 

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 One reason why I’m happy I’m single, is that I don’t like to compromise and I no longer have to. I don’t have to indulge my masking or deep conditioning hair rituals. I don’t have to hide shopping bags in my trunk anymore. I don’t have to “run it by” my partner before I make decisions. I no longer have to sacrifice my freedom or independence. No one is holding me back anymore. I buy myself the best presents on holidays (I know exactly the things I love!), I spoil myself rotten….as you should. I go out to eat and watch what I want and I’ve gotten selfish with my time. 

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 Being single, it irks me to hear women say that their partner is their better half or other half.  Or so and so makes me a better person or brings out the best in me. I don’t deserve this person. No honey, you’re a whole person 100% and it’s been within yourself the entire time. If you do better it’s because you chose to do better. Please give yourself the credit, and not to some boy. Sunsets and sunrises are still beautiful. Being in a relationship doesn’t make the places you see or do diminish the beauty. Humans are so geared to think that we need a partner to merely exist or be truly happy in life. Is something only worthwhile or beautiful if you have someone to share it with? Being alone certainly does not mean that I am lonely.

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 My best reason for being single, is that I’m not an extension of someone. I’m not my best me because of my better half. I am my own person and I love myself first. A friend once told me that she “loves me some me.” I didn’t get it then, it took a while to get to that place. Now, I get it and  I love me some me. Create your own fairy tale, there doesn’t have to be a Prince Charming. Love yourself first, it’s ok. It’s an incredible journey. 

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Thanks so much for reading and letting me share my journey with you!

  • What I Wore:
  • Polka Dot Dress by Zappos
  • White Floral Dress by Down East Basics
  • Pink Polka Dot Dress by JC Penny

 

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~Jules

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One Year Later

 

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Hello everyone! I’m celebrating a land mark date for myself… I’ve been blogging for one year! I’m really into celebrating milestones, however big or small. Achieving goals and accomplishments keeps your dreams big and keeps them growing. I am by no means a pro when it comes to social media, in fact, I still feel that I am in the infant stages. I’m a baby blogger. Here are some things I’ve learned along the way.

1. Consistency is key. When I first started out, I didn’t have a set schedule and often times posted at random. I still get stuck in this at times, I get busy, life gets in the way, etc, we are  all guilty of this. There needs to be a sense of regularity and not haphazard times of whenever is convenient.

2. Quality not quantity. I’ll be honest, I published quite a bit of things that I cringe at now.  I had this urge to get things out there as soon and as much as possible, that the quality wasn’t the best. Regardless, I’ve decided to keep those posts up because they are still ME. Throughout this blogging journey, they became a reminder to myself of how far I’ve come and to learn from mistakes I’ve made.

3. It’s harder than it looks. Initially, I thought it was going to be easy. I mean, my topic is about dresses and although it may be superficial “fluff”, it really does require some time and effort. There’s a whole system in place and not as simple as snapping pics. Photos, location, content, thoughts and ideas all come together to form just one post.

4. Engagement is key. You can have the most aesthetically pleasing post, but without anyone to read or comment can leave you feeling disheartened. Engaging with other like minded people who share your vision or have things in common with are the ways to grow. Building yourself can only happen when you network with others. I struggle with this to this day. In my “real” day to day life, I am quite shy. It’s been difficult sometimes to get out of my own head or come out of my shell, even if it is behind a computer screen.

5. Have fun with it! I’ve come to realize that the more I’ve been doing it, the more enjoyment and fun I’ve had. For example, looking for great photo opportunities and locations ended up becoming a way to travel and experience new things. I probably never would have been to certain places or tried new things if it weren’t for that. It really got me out of my comfort zone.

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Thank you so much for following along with me this past year on my blogging journey. I am beyond grateful. This has been such a rewarding and fulfilling experience.

  • What I Wore
  • Gingham Checkered Dress by Old Navy

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules

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Red, White and Stripes

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Happy 4th of July! Just a quick post today, as I am spending time with family and loved ones, and hope you are too! Summer, barbecues and fireworks are such a fun part of celebrating Independence Day.

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In true American fashion, I had to show my patriotic side in classic red, white and blue. My way….in a dress. I hope you liked my take on this holiday tradition and have an memorable weekend!

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  • What I Wore
  • Blue/ white Striped Dress by Banana Republic
  • Shoes by Madden Girl

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules

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This Is How I Denim

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Many of you already know, I don’t wear jeans or pants, and while I don’t necessarily feel as though I’m missing out, I do love denim.  Other than jeans, denim is easy to find in jackets and shirts but not quite so available in skirt or dress forms. Let’s be honest, many denim skirts and dresses can tend to lean towards being outdated, matronly or demure. My clothing choices do reflect my personality and what I showcase to the world about myself.

As my shirt says, “I rule my world” and this is how I denim. As per my previous post, “The Blogger Tuck”, I’ve recently embraced tucking in my shirts. I decided to give it a go with this denim skirt and really liked how cool and  casual this outfit turned out.

 

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I hope you enjoy this take on denim, as much as I enjoyed wearing it. Maybe you will take a break from the typical denim jeans and try a fun denim skirt this summer! Thanks so much for stopping by!

**What I Wore                                                         * Distressed Denim Skirt by Wild Fable (Target)                                                                       * Striped Shirt by EV1 (Walmart)

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules

 

 

 

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Stuff and Fluff (Pt I)

 

 

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Seattle is getting caught up in a snow storm this weekend. I thought, what better time to do a “get to know me” post. Beyond my love for dresses and the color pink, I’ll be sharing 10 things about me, some “real stuff” and some “fun fluff.” Let’s start with the first 5, so be sure to check my upcoming post for Part II.

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1. I’m quite shy. On the exterior, you may never guess it, I can smile, make small talk and engage in conversations. On the inside, I’m rattled and having a mini social anxiety moment. I’m not one to be the center of attention although what’s on the outside doesn’t always reflect that. I like to wear bright colors and standout patterns and you would think that I have a loud, outgoing and boisterous personality. However, I’m quite the opposite. Maybe the things I am wearing on the outside is just myself projecting who I want to be internally. My love of pink and animal prints may well be a good reflection of who I really am underneath and this is my way of bringing her out.

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2. When I was younger, my dream was to be a model and a writer. I went about it the unconventional and non traditional way, but I can actually say that I’m living my dream. This may not be everyone else’s idea of being a model/ writer, but it’s mine. This is making me happy and I’m falling in love with the process. I get to wear my dresses and write about it! Always be your own star! Therefore, in my eyes, I’m  model and a writer.

3. I’m hopelessly directionally challenged. It doesn’t matter if I’ve been there a dozen times or if my GPS is on. Chances are, Ill take the street right before, miss an exit or just take a wrong turn in general. I’m not sure how it happens, but if you want to be late or lost, I’m your girl. I try, I really do.

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4. I love coffee! I’m not sure if it’s a prerequisite to love coffee if you are a Seattle-ite, given that there are Starbucks and barista stands on every corner. I started when my son was a toddler, just to keep up with all of his energy. Years later, I’m still finding excuses for my morning cup of joe. There is nothing quite like a jolt of java that gets me going into high gear.

5. I’m a vegetarian. At times, i can be a “flexitarian” but generally I choose to go meatless. It was a choice I made a few years ago and I’m genuinely happy with my lifestyle change.  Don’t get me wrong, vegetarian doesn’t always mean healthy. I can’t turn down cheese and indulge in more than my fair share of chips and candy. With meat though, I just don’t have a taste for it.

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Thanks for stopping! What are some fun facts about you? Do we share some things in common? Let me know!

***What I Wore***

  • Black A line Dress by Lulus
  • White Jacket by Aeropostale
  • Bright Pink Tall Gloss Rainboots by Hunter Boots
  • Floral leggings by Lularoe

 

In a world full of pants, be a dress~ Jules 

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Sassy in a Smock Dress

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Its Thanksgiving weekend! Christmas trees and lights are twinkling and it’s the official start of Black Friday. The holiday season is here! The countdown begins…. 33 days untill Christmas! I did brave the crowds to scour the deals and only bought a single item. I scored plaid scarf from old navy and I’m excited to incorporate it in a future blog post.

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Today, I’m wearing a belted, button up, corduroy smock dress. I’ve been noticing that smock dresses are popping up everywhere, in a ton of different colors, textures, and plaids. This dress was comfortable and easy to pair with pretty much anything under it. To keep everything in its place, I opted to layer this smock dress with a striped body suit.

Hope you liked the look! What are your thoughts on smock dresses? Have you been rocking them this season?

 

***What I Wore***                                                     *Belted, Button Up Corduroy Smock Dress by Charlotte Russe*                                                     *White with stripes bodysuit by Charlotte Russe*

Thank you for stopping by!

~In a world full of pants, be a dress~

Jules