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Taking Photos And Social Anxiety

 

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Taking photos is just a part of social media, blogging, etc, and it plays a big role. The smiles, the poses but what really goes into that photo? When you’re out in public or in a crowded area or you’re with friends and take photos, or even by yourself with a selfie, you snap a few and stop. In a selfie ruled world, a lot of us really don’t like to do it in view of other people. Our Facebook. Instagram, snaps chats, social media’s profiles are filled with selfies and pics. I don’t get why, in reality, we are quick with taking photos in public and try to be as discreet as possible about it. We all do it, we snap a few and slyly look around to see if anyone is watching. If you’re in the clear, you take more and if not, you put your phones away. You don’t take too many, you don’t want to draw attention to yourself. Why the judgement when we all selfie? I really don’t know why there is such a stigma against taking multiple photos but after a short amount of shots, we stop. We all do it. You take a few and keep it moving. If you’re feeling that level of self consciousness with just a few snaps from your phone, being a blogger, when photos are key, it can be even more daunting. It’s not easy putting yourself out there like that and it really does take some guts to do it.

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I wish I could snap a few shots and call it a day but it never happens that way. I can take dozens, sometimes even a couple hundred and only a few shots are even usable. Even worse, I can spend hours shooting and everything will work against me, the wind, the lighting, weather, location, my outfit, poses, crowds and I can literally walk away without any usable content. It’s frustrating to say the least, to spend hours and no pay off. I guess I can say it’s a learning experience and use it to my advantage the next time around.

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A lot of us already know that the ideal time to take photos is when there is no one around and not crowded. So we head off at the best time before this particular spot becomes congested. If something opens up at 9, I will probably get there around 8 or even earlier. Thank you google for showing the busiest times at locations. But then you have the prime golden hour, which is the most magical lighting, but everyone is around. When I am in a highly populated area, I can feel silly and quite self conscious as people are passing by.

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Taking photos around others isn’t as easy at looks. What you don’t see beyond the smile and pose, is all the people walking around. Some stare, some gawk, point, honk their horn, laugh, roll their eyes, and some ask what you’re doing. These things really do happen. It’s not always bad, I’ve met some supportive people along the way. It can be difficult to be in your element and just do your thing. We all want to take our friendship or selfie shots as soon as we can and get it over with, but I have to keep taking photo after photo to get that best shot. Even if it means there’s a crowd milling around and at that point, I feel ridiculously vain taking photos, setting up my tripod for just myself. What I’ve learned is to ignore it or smile at the passerbys. Most of the time, they smile back, so this definitely works. Or I pretend I am fiddling around with my camera, making adjustments until they leave and this works too.

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What I have learned, that works the best, is just to face it head on. I try not over think it, and tell myself that I don’t know these people and they don’t know me. I’ll probably never see them again and keep on posing and smiling untill I have the photos I need. It can be unnerving having people watch you. You have to dig deep and pretend you don’t see them and not let it affect you. Sometimes I have to blast Eminem or my girl Cardi B through my headphones just to get into that mode and mindset. Stop getting in my own head if I want to get it done. Taking photos is public places can be embarrassing and sometimes I just want to pack up my stuff and leave. But I make myself stay, I push through it and remind myself that it’s not their opinion of me that makes a difference in who I am.

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I tell myself, you got this, who cares what they think, stay confident, you’re strong, you’re a boss babe, just go take those photos. Sometimes I can be quite harsh and not so nice to myself and say “just stfu, quit being a baby, who cares about those people and just go do it. I literally have to tell my brain to shut up , turn my thoughts off and make myself. Its important that I set my purpose and know I have reason for doing this. I have a goal and it’s something I have to remind myself.

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Does anyone else have anxiety when taking photos in public places? How did you overcome it?

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Thanks so much for stopping by!

  • What I Wore:
  • Blue Floral Dress by Colza (Japanese Fashion)
  • Pink Korean Traditional Dress (Hanbok)- no brand
  • Sequined Heart Pullover by Blooming Jelly
  • Scalloped Lace Pink Dress by Speechless
  • Blazer by IFNE (Korean Fashion)

In a world full of pants, be a dress~ Jules

 

 

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Create Your Own Fairy Tale

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All the single ladies, all the single ladies… I have been a single lady since 2015. On the heels of my my breakup, of being in a relationship for 10 years, I found myself completely lost. I wanted to replace or fill that void as quickly as I possibly could. I’ve watched people rush into relationships before they were ready or stuck in relationships they weren’t happy in. I didn’t want to make those same mistakes, so I decided to just work on myself instead. Looking back, I’m glad I took the much needed time to heal and find myself.

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 The more time that has passed, the more I love being single. This is no bs, or sugar coating, or just saying it to make myself feel better and to convince you not to. People look sad and pathetically, at you and say oh, you’ll find someone. You won’t feel that way forever, you’ll change your mind for the right one, when the right person/ guy comes around. This is actually insulting to me. I get met with a lot shock, like it’s a bad thing. I’ve been told, you haven’t met the right one, you won’t always feel this way. Wanna bet? I mean, sure there is a chance that I could meet someone amazing and change my mind but you’re going to have to be John Cena because my standards are sky high. However, John Cena, if you’re reading this, hi, you can totally slide into my DMs. Is there is something wrong with me for being completely content with not being in a relationship or a marriage? I don’t think so, and I don’t believe that being in one defines who I am. 

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 One reason why I’m happy I’m single, is that I don’t like to compromise and I no longer have to. I don’t have to indulge my masking or deep conditioning hair rituals. I don’t have to hide shopping bags in my trunk anymore. I don’t have to “run it by” my partner before I make decisions. I no longer have to sacrifice my freedom or independence. No one is holding me back anymore. I buy myself the best presents on holidays (I know exactly the things I love!), I spoil myself rotten….as you should. I go out to eat and watch what I want and I’ve gotten selfish with my time. 

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 Being single, it irks me to hear women say that their partner is their better half or other half.  Or so and so makes me a better person or brings out the best in me. I don’t deserve this person. No honey, you’re a whole person 100% and it’s been within yourself the entire time. If you do better it’s because you chose to do better. Please give yourself the credit, and not to some boy. Sunsets and sunrises are still beautiful. Being in a relationship doesn’t make the places you see or do diminish the beauty. Humans are so geared to think that we need a partner to merely exist or be truly happy in life. Is something only worthwhile or beautiful if you have someone to share it with? Being alone certainly does not mean that I am lonely.

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 My best reason for being single, is that I’m not an extension of someone. I’m not my best me because of my better half. I am my own person and I love myself first. A friend once told me that she “loves me some me.” I didn’t get it then, it took a while to get to that place. Now, I get it and  I love me some me. Create your own fairy tale, there doesn’t have to be a Prince Charming. Love yourself first, it’s ok. It’s an incredible journey. 

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Thanks so much for reading and letting me share my journey with you!

  • What I Wore:
  • Polka Dot Dress by Zappos
  • White Floral Dress by Down East Basics
  • Pink Polka Dot Dress by JC Penny

 

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~Jules

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This Is How I Denim

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Many of you already know, I don’t wear jeans or pants, and while I don’t necessarily feel as though I’m missing out, I do love denim.  Other than jeans, denim is easy to find in jackets and shirts but not quite so available in skirt or dress forms. Let’s be honest, many denim skirts and dresses can tend to lean towards being outdated, matronly or demure. My clothing choices do reflect my personality and what I showcase to the world about myself.

As my shirt says, “I rule my world” and this is how I denim. As per my previous post, “The Blogger Tuck”, I’ve recently embraced tucking in my shirts. I decided to give it a go with this denim skirt and really liked how cool and  casual this outfit turned out.

 

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I hope you enjoy this take on denim, as much as I enjoyed wearing it. Maybe you will take a break from the typical denim jeans and try a fun denim skirt this summer! Thanks so much for stopping by!

**What I Wore                                                         * Distressed Denim Skirt by Wild Fable (Target)                                                                       * Striped Shirt by EV1 (Walmart)

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~ Jules

 

 

 

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Throwback Ootd

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Its Throwback Thursday and I thought it would be fun to post some pics that were forgotten along the way. Vacations are some of the best, especially if you have photos to remind of you of those memories. I’m missing Vegas and the palm trees and can’t wait until my next trip.

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Besides pink, yellow would be my next runner up in choice of favorite colors. Yellow is so cheery, sunny and uplifting! I paired the bell sleeve sweater with a polka dot maxi skirt for a fun look. Polka dots are fun, carefree and whimsical.  A lot of times, red is paired with black/ white polka dots. I do love the red combo sometimes, but more often than not, I feel as though I am trying to resemble Minnie Mouse with the polka dots.  I try and veer towards other colors such as yellows, pinks and blues for that reason. I hope you liked the look and thanks for stopping by my throwback post!

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  • * What I Wore *            
  • Chenille Mustard Yellow sweater by Rainbow shops
  •  Ruffled Hem Polka Dot skirt by Downeast basics

~In a world full of pants, be a dress~ Jules                    

 

 

 

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A floral affair

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Whats better than actually receiving flowers? For me personally, I prefer my flowers on a dress. Floral prints never wilt, wither or die.  They look alive and fresh all the time. I think flowers are a true representation of romance, love or starting a new. With Valentines Day right around the corner, this is a great time to include some flowers on a dress in your closet. Or anytime, really.

 

Floral dresses make me feel graceful, flirty and forever a romantic dreamer. It’s great for dates. Dinner? Eiffel Tower? Picnic? A moonlight stroll? Check, check and check… floral dresses for the win!

 

For today’s look, I’m wearing a black pink floral dress with billowy ruffle sleeves. I’m really loving the black lace detail, subtle  Victorian, but a gorgeous standout.  Hope you add a little sparkle and floral to your day!

 

***What I Wore***

  • Floral Dress by Nine West (Macys)

In a world full of pants, be a dress ~Jules

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Not A Dress Snob

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Something I get asked frequently is “Where do you get all your dresses from?” I’m asked as if I’m about to disclose my favorite shop and I have one main supplier. Friends, I’ll let you in on my secret…..I buy my dresses everywhere and anywhere. I have dresses from Walmart, Target, mall stores, department stores, from friends, boutiques, flea markets, discount stores,online and more. I don’t have a favorite store and have been pleasantly surprised by some of the dresses and skirts I’ve aquired from some of these places. I don’t discriminate and that is how I built my dress wardrobe. I’m not a dress snob, I just love dresses regardless of where I’ve bought them from. There are some dresses that I have had in my collection for years and still wear today because of how timeless and classic they are, even with today’s fast fashion and modern trends.

I tend to shop more traditionally, I prefer brick and mortar stores over online shopping. With so many different styles, lengths and dress options out there, not everything looks like it does on the model, from your monitor. Just as if you were browsing in store, you should definately try on before you buy. Sometimes a dress could look gorgeous on the hanger and left little to be desired after trying it on.

For today’s look, I’m wearing a neutral beige dress with pockets. For the love of pockets, I get so excited about that small detail. To keep warm and keeping it in season with a plaid scarf. The scarf was actually my one and only purchase from Black Friday 2018. I’ve been wearing with a lot this past winter.  Do you have a favorite go to store that doesn’t let you down or do you shop around like I do? Let me know in the comments!

***What I Wore***

  • Beige dress with pockets by Ann Taylor
  • Plaid scarf by Old Navy

 

In a world full of pants be a dress ~ Jules

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Not So Basic LBD

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For the the love of the LBD. The “little black dress.” We all have at least one in our closet that we bring out and it’s just right for most any occasion. Black dresses are a classic and should be a staple piece in our wardrobes. It just goes with a lot and it’s chic in its own way.

I have a bittersweet love for the color black. Some time ago, I attended a beauty school. The school uniform was black… all black. In theory, black is a neutral shade, a blank canvas. Wearing black as a stylist/ artist helps ensure that there are no other colors competing with your client’s coloring or tone. In essence, your client becomes the true focal point, the star of the show.  Wearing black has a way of making you look polished and trendy. Unfortunately, I’ve had my fill of all black and wear the shade sparingly now.

When I do wear black, I like to add some color, texture or prints. These details can really take your LBD up a notch. This is also a good way to play with bolder colors that you wouldn’t typically wear. If you have a bright scarf or jacket that you rarely wear becauae it’s hard to pull off, throw it on top of a black dress. It’s a new look and not your basic LBD anymore.

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***What I Wore***

  • Black zipper dress by Andrew Marc (Nordstrom)
  • Pink Faux Fur bear by Betsey Johnson (Macy’s)

In a world full of pants, be a dress! Thanks for stopping by…..

Jules

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Bows With Fringe Benefits

There’s that accessory rule/ guideline, which states, that before you leave the house, remove one piece of jewelry. I’ve never abided to that rule, the more the better, is what I live by. I’m an over-accessorizer. In keeping true to my 2019 word of the year, I choose to “sparkle” inside and out!

I think it’s darling when a dress or skirt come embellished with details, It’s like another accessory I’ll gladly stack to my overly accessorized self. Whether it’s bows, fringe, tassels or ruffles, it’s the details that really bring your outfit to life.

For my outfit of the day, I paired a cream bow tie blouse with a checkered fringed dress. I love bows, either in my hair or on my dresses, it’s a graceful and feminine look.

***What I Wore***

  • Sheath Dress by Laundry by Shelly Segal
  • Bow tie blouse by H&M

In a world full of pants, be a dress~ Jules

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Sparkle

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Happy New Years!! I’m bursting with energy today and feel incredibly optimistic for 2019. This is going to be one of my best years yet, I can feel it. Hope your goals, resolutions and dreams be in your favor this year.

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I’ve picked my word of the year. I’ve decided to Sparkle. I want to sparkle, shine and dazzle and let the person I’m meant to be come out. Today and for 2019, as I strive to be the best possible version of myself and all aspects of my life, Im going to sparkle every step of the way.

New Years Eve was so much fun and I wanted my dress to reflect that. I’ve been obsessed with bell bottom sleeves lately and I’ve been wearing them in my past couple of posts. Bell bottom sleeves can really add aome flair to an otherwise plain colored shirt. I’m always thrilled when I’m able to find this style. In Vegas, it’s still gets cold, so I’m glad I packed my blush pink, faux fur coat. I felt so glam, and if this is what J. Lo or Khloé Kardashian feel like, then I’m all in! Hope you liked the look and here’s to an amazing 2019!

 

***What I Wore***

  • Silver/ Black Dress by Who What Wear (Target)
  • Blush Faux Fur Coat by Love Tree

 

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Holiday Red

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Happy New Years Eve! Waking up to the bright sunshine and palm trees was a beautiful start for my last day of 2018.

I love a black and red combo. There’s something about the two together that really makes your outfit sassy and bold. I get a little hesitant when I throw white into the mix because it’s easy to venture into the Minnie Mouse territory. With this black and white dress, I took it up a notch and accessorized with a touch of red.

This was my look of the day and hope you liked it. Please tell me I’m not the only one with a macaron obsession. The colors and flavor selections get me everytime! Happy New Years Eve! Best Wishes!

***What I Wore***

  • Dress by White House Black Market
  • Red Bow Belt by Lulu’s

”In a world full of pants, be a dress!”